Family Crustaceans

          How do I know if I am dating the right person? How do I know if I should marry this person? Am I doing the right thing? These could all potentially be questions we all have or will ask ourselves eventually.      Dating and marriage nowadays are really complicated and hard. For some people, it is really easy but for most, it isn’t the most fun thing to do. There are so many circumstances that go into dating that people don’t realize have to happen. There is a phrase called “DTR.” I didn’t know what this meant until I moved up to Rexburg for my first semester of college. Once I found out that it meant “define the relationship,” it made a lot more sense. Defining the relationship is a big step in a relationship because it gives you the chance to know if you and your partner are on the same page as far as knowing what the other person thinks about it or what they want out of the relationship. This can even go into the engagement phase which was kind of hard for me to believe. The

       When we compare dating from this day and age to what dating was like in the older generations, it is drastically different. Back then, they didn’t have dating apps and they were able to actually meet and talk in person. I’m not saying that we can’t do that now but it’s almost like people are scared to talk to people in person. Nowadays people would rather text you than have a conversation with you in person. In my opinion, I’d much rather get to know someone in person because you learn more about them that way. We get to get a feel of what that person is really like because over text they can have time to type out what they want you to hear.      There is a popular phrase that has been going around this generation concerning dating and I think that it is really interesting. It is “Date ‘em ‘til you hat ‘em.” I think that this saying is pretty accurate because that’s what we see most often as young adults trying to date. In my opinion, I think it happens because this generation i

     Does gender matter in the family? This is a question that has unfortunately been merely looked over in the past five years. There are so many circumstances where there is a single parent in the home, two moms or two dads, or just the mom or dad is just not involved in the home so the people in the home are affected by it.      This week I learned a lot of things about the stereotypical man and woman compared to what I thought I knew. Men’s brains are more completely different than women’s. Men have little boxes and they have a box for each and every conversation, so to speak. Where women have a brain that is much more wired meaning everything conversation connects for women. Some other examples of how we are different are women are typically more social, learn to speak earlier, are better listeners, and have relational orientation. Men however are more physically violent, learn to speak later, are better problem-solvers, and have spatial orientation. When talking about relational

  For the past few years, the word privilege has become a part of common vocabulary more than it ever has been. This week I learned a lot about privilege and how it can affect some people’s lives.       We started out by talking about what we think of when we think of the word class in society. The main thing mentioned was social class. This includes money, location, education, career, religion, caste system, race, language, appearance, family structure, and different connections a person might have. At the time, I didn’t realize that all of these things play a big part in how you fit in society. In most cases, a person can know what social class someone else is in just based on what they look like and how they present themselves.       A lot of you may not know what a caste system is because when I heard that phrase I didn’t know what it meant. In other countries, if you grow up in a certain class with a certain amount of money, that is the class you will be in for the rest of your

          I don’t think I ever understood the importance of the different roles people play in the family system. I have seen so many different examples in my life of families that are so different compared to how I was raised. Some examples that we went over in class were how in most families the “leaders” of the family are the parents. In other families, the leaders are the children and they run the house. In my family, I would agree that the parents are the leaders. In my opinion, I think it is better if the parents have a hold on the family. I have seen a lot of examples where the kids are the leaders of the family and in most circumstances, those families have a lot more chaos. I have also seen that those kids end up a bit more bratty and rude because they are used to always getting their way. I think a family should have rules set and discipline in place just so people can learn the lesson of their actions and their consequences. Another example is how every child has a parent th