Love and Attention

    

    What is the purpose of parenting? To some, this might be a dumb question. However, it is important to ask yourself if you have or want children of your own in the future. When I first heard this question, I also thought it was kind of weird. I was thinking how could someone not know the answer? I then started to actually think about it and I found myself wondering. There could be so many different possible answers. As for the answer, I wrote the purposes of parenting are to raise children to be good, kind, generous people. Teach young children the right concepts and behaviors. It is also important to show children love so they know what it feels like to feel whole. While I was writing this blog post I decided to look up the internet’s answer to what the purpose of parenting is. APA.org says that the purpose of parenting is ensuring children's health and safety, preparing children for life as productive adults, and transmitting cultural values. This answer is very similar to my thoughts and my peer's thoughts on what the purpose of parenting actually is. The next sentence the APA mentioned says a high-quality parent-child relationship is critical for healthy development. This is what I would like to focus on for this blog post. 

    When there isn’t a healthy relationship between a parent and a child, it can be very damaging for the child while they are growing up. I have seen it in many different situations with the people around me. Even if you have both parents in the home, if you don’t have a good relationship with them, you miss out on a lot of crucial involvement. From all of the people that I have talked to, teachers are the people that can point out what child gets the love and attention that they need. While this is true, it is not always the case. With different people I have gone to school with, just based on how they would act, you could guess what their home life was like. However, no matter how much you think you know about a person, you never know what is going on behind closed doors. I like to keep this in mind with all of the people I have in my life because while you don’t know what is going on, being a kind person will always help a person. While being mean to them can damage them forever. 

    My professor shared an experience he had with a young boy in his churchward. This young boy would never sit still and he would also act out in ways that people didn’t understand. For lack of better words, everybody found this boy very annoying. When he would be acting out, his parents wouldn’t even react. It seemed like they didn’t care. So, one day my professor decided to give him more attention and just asked him questions and complimented his outfits. Over the span of a few weeks, everybody saw a drastic change in him. He was able to be calm as well as not be so “annoying.” 

    It really is the simplest things that help children the most. If we just give them the love and attention that they need and deserve, they won’t have to fight for it or do things that they think will bring them the right attention. I am so grateful for the parents I have in my life because they have shown me the love and support that every child should get. This brings me back to the point I made previously. If we all treat people how we want to be treated and aren’t so judgemental all the time, it could really change a person's life. Even if it is just a simple smile or even a compliment. 

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